How to Improve Your Self-Esteem?

Marcus Aurelius, the Roman emperor, composed many notes as a source of knowledge for his personal direction and self-improvement thousands of years ago. “It never fails to astonish me: we all love ourselves more than other people, yet worry more about their opinion than our own,” says one of them.

He is correct. Self-improvement does not happen as a result of seeking approval from others or peacocking in order to gain societal acceptability. Instead, it occurs when you have unwavering faith in your ability to move from where you are in life to where you want to be.

Allow yourself to let go of the need to please everyone.

“There is only one path to happiness, and it is to stop worrying about things that are beyond our control. ” Epictetus, Epictetus, Epictetus, Epicte

Fun fact: you have no influence over other people's behavior. Rather of fretting about the parts of life that you can't control, a more practical approach is to concentrate entirely on what you can.

For instance, I've begun to spend more time with people that inspire me. I also make an effort to establish friends with individuals that accept and adore me for who I am. What's the end result? An boost in self-esteem, as well as a lot happier and more fulfilling existence. Karyn Hall, Ph.D., writes in Psychology Today:

“Being a part of a larger group boosts your motivation, health, and happiness. When you realize how connected you are to others, you realize that everyone struggles and goes through terrible moments. You're not on your own. That knowing gives me comfort.”

Life might come to an end at any time. It's possible that this is your last day on this planet. A vehicle accident, being hit by a bus, or being devoured by a shark are all possibilities. So, do you really want to waste your (perhaps) last days worrying about other people's opinions and other parts of life that you have no control over? Most likely not. As a result, it's a good idea to concentrate on what you can.

Keep in mind that you are "good enough."

“It is not that things are difficult because we do not dare; it is that things are difficult because we do not dare.” Seneca —

I used to fall into what's known as the perfectionist trap. I watched other individuals who seemed to be enjoying ideal lives and yearned for something like. However, I was frequently blind to the difficulties that my colleagues faced. As a result, anytime I experienced difficulties, I felt like I wasn't "good enough" since I had the misconception that success was meant to be simple. In the words of The School of Life:

“In order to serve up a daily curated selection of peak career moments, our media edits out billions of unremarkable lives and years of failure, rejection, and frustration even in those who do achieve — in order to serve up a daily curated selection of violent exceptions that end up appearing as a norm and baseline of achievement, our media edits out billions of unremarkable lives and years of failure, rejection, and frustration even in those who do achieve. It begins to look as though everyone is successful since all of the people we hear about are indeed successful. We've failed to consider the seas of sorrow and misery that must inevitably encircle them.”

You don't frequently witness the sleepless nights that artists, musicians, and authors endured to get to where they are now on social media. You also don't see how many rejections they had when attempting to have their work published. It's the same with YouTube trip vlogs. Sure, the Bahamas images and videos are breathtaking. However, you seldom see content producers become irritated by delayed flights, misplaced luggage, and other mishaps that occur when traveling.

You only see the end outcome. It's vital to remember, though, that some got to where they are by taking a tough path. You must also work hard to obtain your own personal idea of success.

Face adversity with strength, courage, and mental fortitude, no matter what problems life throws your way. Because the only thing that matters is that you do your hardest to overcome hardship.

Accept the elements of life that you cannot control and let go of your inner need to satisfy everyone. Then remind yourself that you are sufficient. Because, in order to improve your life, you must realize that hardship is unavoidable, but it can also be overcome.

These are the stoic philosophy techniques that significantly improved my self-esteem and overall level of confidence. They should, ideally, do the same for you.